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examples of my art;
korar asked: Aaah thank you! I thought it was pretty inaccurate, the whole relationship just seemed really terribly off to me. But like my question is like, how is he abusive towards her when they're doing bdsm stuff? I can't really pin point the abusive cause I don't know enough about bdsm to be like HEY that's fucked up, you know? All I know is that it seems off. Thanks again! Sorry if this is a hard question or whatever.
Not at all. For starters, this article covers some basic shit and uses actual excerpts from the books: http://www.care2.com/causes/fifty-shades-of-grey-is-a-lesson-in-fifty-shades-of-abuse-says-study.html
If you don’t feel like reading the article, the tl;dr version is that Christian Grey routinely intimidates or coerces the main female character, Anastasia, into having sex with him or agreeing to do whatever the fuck he wants. Being scared of your partner is NOT part of BDSM; that is part of an abusive relationship. Worrying about disappointing your Dom can be part of a sub’s mindset, but worried that he will hurt you if you do not measure up is abuse, even in the BDSM community. He also brings up a contract, then says ‘fuck the contract’ because.. I dunno, I guess he realized he isn’t a Dom because Doms actually give a fuck about hard limits and what their subs can or cannot handle, and he obviously doesn’t care. Hell, he STALKED HER AT WORK after their first meeting. Who the fuck does that? Even Romeo had better tact than that, and he was a fucking teenager.
When women read these things and think ‘I want this’, they either aren’t comprehending what they are reading, or they are actively wishing for an abusive, domineering (not dominant) boyfriend. I believe in one of the books Christian blames his ‘sexual deviancy’ on his mother being a crackwhore. Uh, that’s great, but that makes it sound like someone is only into BDSM if they had a shitty upbringing or some kind of troubled childhood - which isn’t true at all. Anastasia also longs for a ‘normal’ relationship with a white picket fence, a dog, and 2.5 kids, and is hoping to ‘cure’ Christian of what is obviously an ailment. So not only is this worthless pile of wasted paper and ink ABUSIVE, but it paints the entire BDSM community in a bad light.
Again, I can only go off of what I’ve heard about the book, or from the passages I’ve seen posted online. But it is seriously a shitty series, and the fact that women ate it up like no one had ever written BDSM erotica before is ridiculous. Anne Rice wrote a three or four book series regarding a BDSM-version of Sleeping Beauty - try reading that, as my mother greatly enjoyed it (and since she didn’t bat an eye at the flogger or cuffs on the walls of my apartment, I’m guessing she’s a little more knowledgeable than the woman who wrote 50 Shades).